Sunday, February 27, 2011
The hardest thing I’ve learned in life so far is…
The hardest thing I’ve learned in life so far is that people are investments.
There is a particular brand of friend of which I think we all need one or two. I’m talking about that person you’ve not seen or spoken with in three years, yet you talk and laugh as if you’d just seen each other yesterday. You pick up right where you left off. Those are great friends, and I truly believe that we all need those in our lives. They remind us that no matter what has changed in our lives, there are pieces of us that aren’t so uncertain. They remind us that we are accepted.
But most relationships don’t seem to function well without communication. As a plant requires sunlight and nutrients and fertile soil in which to grow, a relationship requires time and attention and commitment. In such a fast-paced world, with so very many things demanding our attention all of the time, it can be difficult to give relationships the effort they need to thrive. But people need you. They need your attention. They need your love and affirmation and encouragement and understanding.
I confess, I am usually more concerned with those solitary activities that grow me as an individual (reading, writing, walking the dog, playing my guitar) than I am with investing in relationships. It’s a balance I’ve always struggled with—and probably always will! But I’m learning. And that’s the key, I think—keep learning. Keep figuring out how to love people better. Keep giving as much of yourself to your friendships as you can. Keep reminding others that they are important to you.
That’s the hardest thing I’ve learned (ahem…the hardest thing I am learning) in life so far.
All my love,